If male chastity is something you’ve been curious about and wondering how to give it a go, I hope this article proves itself useful for you. There’s certainly nothing ‘wrong’ with exploring your consensual kinky interests, and you don’t need to worry that you’re the only person ever to have these thoughts and feelings.
What the Heck is the Purpose of Male Chastity?
The purpose of male chastity in the 21st century is now commonly used in BDSM play. In that scenario, the submissive is locked into a male chastity device by the dominant (referred to as a key holder)
The keyholder holds all the keys to the securely fastened chastity device and is the only person who decides when (or “if”) the chastity device can come off. The key holder’s length is determined and can vary from a few hours to a 24/7 continual chastity lifestyle.
Submissive and dominant alike enjoy male chastity for the surrender/control it offers. The submissive is surrendering their most important organ and one that can provide the most significant amount of pleasure. While the dominant has complete control over said organ during the time spent in the chastity device. When the submissive is in a chastity device, the submissive cannot obtain a full erection. The submissive also cannot have an orgasm until the chastity device comes off.
This experience sounds unpleasant; however, it can be highly pleasurable when the submissive attempts to become erect while in this chastity cage, he will only swell up inside, which feels like a firm grip. Thus, building arousal in the submissive and can continue to build over time. This pent-up arousal can even become more intense than the orgasm they so desire. Once the submissive is freed from male chastity to have their long-awaited orgasm, intensifying the orgasm. The longer the submissive is in a male chastity device, the more intense the final orgasm.
Why Choose Male Chastity?
There are many reasons to choose male chastity. Many couples select chastity to bring each other closer and introduce more intimacy into the bedroom. Many couples are looking for something new to try or something to reignite the spark between them. Most commonly, it is between people trying to help their partner fulfill a lifelong fantasy of theirs. Also used by strict BDSM couples for control and to further their kinky experience.
Individuals and couples experimenting with the chastity lifestyle all come from different backgrounds, and all have various reasons for trying it. Yet, with all this diversity, there is one common fact shared among nearly all of them – once they’ve tried it, they usually get hooked! And the more educated you are about chastity, the more fun you can obtain from it.
Now to answer the question of Why Choose Male Chastity? The most predominant reason behind this is to bring couples closer together. Chastity is one of the fastest ways to bring two people closer together than they ever thought imaginable, both romantically and intimately. It will take a dull ember and light it up into a bonfire if appropriately used.
The second most common reason is to help their partner fulfill a lifelong fantasy. While these two reasons usually go hand-in-hand, it is not always the case. For example, chastity is a common fetish shared by many individuals; however, it is viewed as “taboo” because many choose to hide their desires. If you’re reading this because your partner has expressed interest in chastity play, they want to engage in this activity with you.
So what causes this spark to go ablaze between couples? The psychological impact of chastity itself. Once the male is locked in chastity, he will feel an immense urge to please his keyholder in a short time. He will obtain genuine pleasure out of helping his keyholder and selflessly making him/her happy. The keyholder also receives a more upbeat and pleasant partner willing to go out of their way to help them and ensure they are comfortable. This usually results in both partner’s overall happiness and connection with each other rising.
Control & Power
The most addicting thing a male chastity device gives key holders is power & control. In the beginning, many keyholders resist it, but once they see the influence and changes a male chastity device has on their partner, keyholders quickly begin to embrace it! The power rushes the key holder obtains from being the only person that can unlock and grant their submissive an orgasm is unlike anything else.
What does power & control mean in this context? When you, the key holder, have a male locked in a male chastity device, he will subconsciously become more submissive to you. He will want to go out of his way to please you. He is helping with a few more chores around the house or skipping out on a ‘guys night’ to spend quality time with you. Providing you with massages upon request, and of course, let’s not forget as many orgasms as you can handle, all to earn release and orgasm – which you exclusively control. As time goes on, he will start to obey your requests more often. And the longer he is locked in his male chastity device, the more demanding requests he will begin to follow.
How can a simple male chastity device how such a profound effect on a male? As previously mentioned, he will subconsciously want to please you – to earn an orgasm – and he will ultimately get self-satisfaction out of doing so. As a result, he will begin to associate your pleasure with his own. Once this starts happening, it’s best to implement a reward (and punishment) system to encourage this new behavior further. This is where the true power lies, granting that long-awaited orgasm on your terms, not his. And he will do just about anything to please you just for the opportunity.
You can take power & control aspect as far as you’d like. Once that male chastity device locks shut, you are in control; you determine the amount of pleasure received and decide what he has to do to earn that privilege. Some use it for a little extra spice in the relationship, while others come home to a spotless house, with all of the chores completed for them, a nice glass of wine, and a bath to unwind to after a long day. What do you prefer?
Orgasms for the Keyholder
Another one of the benefits of a male cock cage is that their key holders’ orgasms will become much more frequent and intense! As the arousal of denial builds in the submissive from being in a male cock cage, he will want to take his sexual frustration out on his key holder. The submissive will constantly be thinking about sex with their key holder while in their cock cage. When any small opportunity presents itself, sparks will fly. Oral skills become noteworthy very quickly, but the submissive can please their keyholder in several other ways. Usually with their hands, with toys, or even with a strap on! As time passes and the submissive has built up their frustration in their cock cage, they will exert more of that sexual energy toward the key holder. Ultimately giving better and better orgasms the longer they are locked.
The orgasms of a keyholder are one of the most cherished benefits of male chastity shared by submissive and key holders alike. The submissive enjoys making their key holder feel good and giving them countless orgasms and ensuring they are completely satisfied at all times. Submissive especially enjoy giving an orgasm without getting one in return. The keyholder, of course, will want the mind-boggling interdimensional orgasms they receive – truly unlike anything else they’ve ever experienced before.
Before leaving the topic of orgasms, we cannot forget about the submissive locked in the cock cage’s orgasm. This is probably the greatest of the perks of chastity that the submissive can look forward to. All the time, pent-up denial in their male cock cage causes the skin to become hypersensitive. This hypersensitivity feels better than anything they’ve ever experienced before. So when they finally share an orgasm, it will be single-handedly the best orgasm they’ve had in their life. And the longer they’re in chastity, the more intense it becomes!
There are countless benefits of male chastity. Some of the most predominant and noticeable benefits include greater intimacy between couples, higher sex drive and libido, and an overall happier life. For dominant/submissive couples – the perfect tool to surrender/take control. Let’s break down these significant benefits and highlight a few other outlying benefits of male chastity as well.
One of the most desirable benefits of male chastity happens after the lock is closed shut for the first time. After the submissive gets their first restricted erection after being locked, sexual tension and frustration quickly flare-up, and the submissive feels like they must channel it somehow. This frustration will build, and the submissive will begin to find their keyholder irresistible. The keyholder will start receiving more frequent compliments, affection, and love, submissive becomes more romantic and has much more gratitude. Male chastity creates the dream partner!
Higher Sex Drive:
Another glaring benefit is the higher sex drive that naturally comes as a result of greater intimacy. As the pent of frustration and tension continues to build, it’ll begin to overflow, and the sex drive and libido begin to consume the submissive. The submissive will want to pleasure the key holder All-Of-The-Time. Their satisfaction becomes synonymous with their key holder’s satisfaction. The longer the submissive is locked, the better their skills become in the bedroom.
Teasing, Teasing, & More Teasing:
Probably one of the essential benefits of male chastity. Teasing, and lot’s of it! All of the benefits of male chastity previously mentioned will work with just minimal teasing. However, teasing is a must. Chastity is much like a campfire; if you don’t continue to add wood (teasing) to it gradually, it will eventually cool down and die and require a great deal of effort to spark up again. The same is also true in reverse; if you continue to add more and more wood to the fire at the correct times, it can blaze up into a massive bonfire of lust and frustration – magnifying all of the benefits mentioned above!
The Perfect Dom/Sub Tool:
For couples into the BDSM lifestyle, a male chastity device is a perfect tool to add to your arsenal. Whether you’re looking to take away and control your slave’s ‘favorite toy,’ using it for training or behavior correction, or even just as another punishment you can administer, the possibilities are endless! One of the benefits of male chastity you will receive from your slave is complete servitude. By controlling their orgasms, you can control the slave easier than you had ever imagined possible!
Shades of Love has such a wide selection of male chastity devices to choose from that you may become overwhelmed as you browse through all of our male chastity cages. We have chosen 3 of our favorite male chastity devices from that I believe ALL men should consider owning and wearing so they can enjoy all of the benefits that male chastity provides!
Best Male Chastity Devices From Shades of Love!
Mystim Public Enemy #1 Cage
Man Cage Chastity 3.5 inches Cock Cage Model 1
Fantasy C-Ringz Hardcore Silicone Cock Blocker