How Do You Know If You’re a Good Kisser?
The Huffington Post reports that 59% of men and 66% of women stopped feeling attracted to someone after a first kiss. So…kissing is important to sealing the deal.
So how do you know if you’re good or if you suck? Here are some signs.
They make lots of noise
Gentle moans, sighs, or even growls are an excellent signifier that you are doing your job. Very rarely are these sounds put out on purpose (unless your partner is just trying to make you feel nice). However, if you’re having your first kisses and these sounds are happening, chances are they are for real.
Losing their footing
If the person you’re kissing stumbles a bit after, you might have done a good job. They were probably more focused on locking lips instead of the basic function of walking.
They make sure their breath isn’t rank
A quick breath check before making outs means they might actually be excited to kiss you. I can’t say that I’ve always done a breath check before certain dates, which should talk about the quality of the kissing I was expecting.
They don’t pull away
Obviously, if they pull away, you’re a bad kisser. However, tinier, frequent pull-aways might mean that they like you but aren’t really impressed with your kissing prowess. The tinier pull-aways might mean you’re in trouble.
It’s critical that your kissing tempos are matched up (i.e. you are both touching lips and moving mouths at a similar pace). If his mouth is small and you’re acting like a sucker fish, you are not doing a good job.
Standing close to your potential kissee? Are they leaning in like they’re expecting something? That’s an excellent signifier that they want to kiss you and, if they’ve kissed you before, then the lean in means you’ve made a serious impression.
If hands become involved
Very often, there’s a natural progression that starts up at the top with lips touching, then involving the hands moving up, down, and all around. If the lips are doing the trick, then the person you’re kissing will more than likely want to keep things short and sweet.
Have things moved into the bedroom? If the person you’re kissing has half a brain, then they probably wouldn’t have equated bad kissing with good sex. No one wants to deal with a bad kisser in bed (well, almost no one).
If they say you’re a good kisser
This might be the one people have the most problems with. If someone says that you’re a good kisser, believe it. They’re saying it, so why don’t you actually believe it?