Some things you should know about oral sex!
So what about Oral Sex. Does it count? Or doesn’t it?
Is it sex? Or foreplay?
Is it serious? Or a simple thing?
If you find it confusing, here are some facts to help you figure it out.
Most of us know what Oral Sex is, but just in case, it is touching another person’s genitals with the mouth.
It’s called Oral SEX for a reason; it is sex.
We are talking genitals; we are talking sexual feelings and responses.
It can cause many of the same emotional and physical responses as other kinds of “sex.” Plus, it has many of the same risks.
You can get STD from Oral Sex.
Why? You are bringing one moist part of the body (the genitals) into contact with another (the mouth). Germs can spread in this environment—Herpes (including cold sores). Syphilis, gonorrhea, and hepatitis B can also transfer through unprotected sex. Chlamydia, HPV, and HIV can also be passed, but not as likely. Herpes is a viral STD, so once you contract Herpes, it never goes away. Medication can control it, but you will always be a carrier and thus can spread to others when having unprotected sex.
You can say “NO” to oral sex just like any other sex.
If you are unsure or don’t want to say “NO.”
ALWAYS protect yourself from STDs!
Of course, the safest way to protect against STDs is abstinence, which means not having sex, including oral sex. However, if you choose not to be abstinent, the next most reliable choice is to use condoms or dental dams.
For oral sex on a man, cover the penis with a new latex condom each time. Don’t fall for the “I won’t come in your mouth,” Thinking that you can only contract an STD if you’re in contact with sperm. STDs can transfer by skin-to-skin contact, genital-to-genital contact, and oral-to-genital contact. If you are allergic to latex condoms, polyurethane condoms are available.
If you question whether you have an STD, you need to tell your doctor what kind of sex you are having (oral, anal, or vaginal). Your doctor would need to test each area separately depending on the type of sex you’re having with your partner.
Remember, STDs can be contracted by anyone having unprotected sex. “You are not immune by virtue of your age, ethnicity, education, profession, or socioeconomic status. One in every fifteen Americans will contract a sexually transmitted disease this year, and one in four already has one.” (Lou Archer)
For Oral sex on a woman, cover the genitals with a latex dam or plastic food wrap.
The risk of getting an STD from oral-anal sex is similar to oral-genital sex. Intestinal infections and hepatitis A can also be passed during oral-anal sex. You can better protect yourself from STDs by covering the anus with a latex dam; a condom is cut open to make a square or plastic food wrap.
Talking about oral sex with your partner is as crucial as vaginal intercourse. Talk about staying safe, what’s ok, your limits, history, and each other’s expectations. The more you talk, the more comfortable you will be. More communication leads to better sex.
Both partners should be tested for STDs before having sex. If your partner refuses to get checked, consider the reasons why. But the bottom line is we highly recommend both partners get tested before engaging in sex, especially if it is sex without protection.
Now that you have done all your homework and are practicing safe sex, let’s talk about a few oral sex positions.
The classic 69 dates back at least as far as the Kama Sutra. The man and women lie side to side with their heads on opposite ends. The woman performs fellatio on the man while, at the same time, the man is performing cunnilingus on the woman. Use your hands to grasp the other person’s buttocks. Grabbing buttocks will prevent them from wiggling away as they squirm with pleasure.
This is a cunnilingus position, ladies, so take a seat, spread your legs and relax. Guys, start by kneeling on the floor between her legs. Gently open them wider if you need more room. Use your hands to pull her hips close to the edge of the chair, giving you the best angle. Slowly but firmly, start licking the area around her clitoris. Move your tongue around randomly. Experiment a bit; when your lady begins to squirm and moan, you will know you found the perfect spot. Glide your tongue back and forth over your lover’s clitoris, making each movement a little firmer and quicker as her arousal increases. Relax your hands as she is getting ready to orgasm to allow her hips to thrust.
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