Why She Doesn’t Want to Have Sex With You Anymore
Shades of Love has received this question a couple times from our male clientele: “Why do women stop having sex with me?” Since there can be a lot of different reasons, we figured we’d put together a guide to help out any men that might be interested in getting some insight as to why a woman would stop sleeping with you.
Menopause
One reason women stop having sex with their partners is they go through menopause. But it’s not for the reason you think.
During menopause, many older women start to feel unattractive. It doesn’t help that the image of what’s sexy in society is always a young woman that is 30 or under. If a woman doesn’t feel sexy, she most likely will not feel like having sex.
Men need to make it known to their partner that even though their wife or partner may be older, they’re still very attractive, especially since they have a history together. A man can appreciate an older mature woman. It’s very hard for women today at a mature age to feel attractive.
You Aren’t Putting In The Effort
Another reason women may not want to have sex with their partner is that men forget how to treat a woman. Women don’t want to hear a man belch or fart. We don’t think it’s funny.
We’ve had women tell us that their man treats them like one of the guys instead of treating her like a woman. Women are always women. We can tolerate being one of the guys, but never forget we are more delicate than the guys, and like to be treated as such.
One of our staff went on a date the other night and was very turned on by the gentleman she was with. Why? Because he stood up every time she got up to go to the ladies room, he pulled out her chair, opened the car door for her. And lastly, thanked her for a lovely evening. Wow! Not many left like that anymore (also, those two are now dating exclusively).
Because You Haven’t Asked
Stop thinking that it’s their obligation to please you and, instead, ask.
A relationship is built on communication and trust. If you don’t communicate your wants and needs, they don’t know what you want. That doesn’t cause a lot of trust because, well…they don’t know that you want sex! So they think you’re uninterested.
Relationships aren’t all necessarily about the things you get a girl. Sometimes it’s about what you say as opposed to what you do. So you mow the lawn each week? Big deal. When was the last time you said that she looked pretty? Just because you do things for her does not mean you are entitled to whatever you want.
Talk to her. Talk to her about everything, including the unpleasant stuff. Once you open up about how you feel you might get her to open up (in more ways than one).
Have other reasons?
Contact Shades of Love so we can add them to our list. We’re always looking to talk with clientele that are in a jam. And, if you need to work on your smooth talk, we always have classes and we’re always taking suggestions.
