If you’re new to BDSM, then “Impact Play” may sound like a very violent kinky role-playing act, but in fact, it’s not, and I’m going to teach you how to safely participate in impact play so you won’t have any fears about giving it a try!
WTF Is Impact Play?
Most people probably know what “impact play” is, even if they didn’t realize that they did. Impact play is the BDSM practice where the ‘Dom’ role whips, paddles, flogs, slaps, spanks, punches, or canes the ‘sub’ for sexual pleasure.
Impact Play Sounds Way Too Violent To Be Pleasurable! Wrong!
While the intensity can vary, impact play can create an erotic exploration of mixing a bit of pain with pleasure.
Whether you’re doing the whipping, spanking, flogging, or if you’re the one being whipped, spanked, or flogged, you will feel sexual pleasure, not just physically but psychologically as well.
As far as physical pleasure goes, being struck on your booty by a whip, flogged on your upper thighs, or smacked and spanked on other erogenous zones stimulates your skin’s nerve receptors and can trigger a tidal wave of pleasurable endorphins and dopamine. Trust me, it sounds very aggressive and violent, but it’s only as aggressive and violent as you and your partner want.
Being whipped or paddled itself may feel unique to you, but it’ll heighten every lovely touch that follows, which leads to an explosive orgasm that will rock your body to its core.
Can I Practice Impact Play On Myself To See If I Like It?
Listen, if you can get yourself off by masturbating, then you don’t need a partner whipping you to see if impact play is something you may find enjoyable. All you need are the right props (leather paddle, spanking flogger, a belt, whips, canes, horse crop, etc.) to smack your legs or back.
The Do’s & Don’t of Impact Play.
I’m not an expert in kink just yet, but I have enough hours of BDSM role-play under my belt to understand what the do’s and don’ts of impact play are.
The DO of IMPACT PLAY!
Do Get Consent: Make sure the ‘sub’ knows, and is in agreement, that they’re about to be whipped, flogged, paddled, smacked, or spanked before you start any impact play session.
Do Use a Safeword & Safe Gesture: Just like any other kinky act, always make sure that you and your partner agree on both a safe word and safe gesture to use before you begin.
Once again, a safe word & safe gesture represents your desire to stop or slow down when you’re role-playing.
Do Discuss Body Marks & Bruises: If you plan on wearing shorts or a skirt the day after participating in impact play, then you may want to inform your ‘dom’ to not leave any marking on your thighs where other people may see them.
Do Talk About Boundaries: Make sure your partner knows where on your body you do not want to be smacked, whipped, paddled, caned, etc. If you’re going to hit, whip, and spank all over them, make sure you let your kinkster in crime know that as well so they understand how to best please you.
Do Discuss BDSM Devices To Use: Some people like being whipped, and others prefer paddling, so make sure that the correct “toys” will be involved doing any impact play session.
The DON’TS of IMPACT PLAY!
Don’t Forget To Consent: Consent is the most critical component of any BDSM act. Make sure everyone involved is on the same page before the whipping starts!
Don’t Get A Speeding Ticket: At least not at first. The ‘dom’ should start slow so the ‘sub’ can get warmed up to impact play. Just like any fantastic sexual encounter, impact play is going to take some time. Start slow and ease your way up.
Don’t Strike Stomachs or Sides: Leave the stomach and sides out of your impact play unless you use light force. No one wants to leave a sexually charged flogging session with irreparable damage or a few nights in the hospital and think of the awkward conversation you and your partner will have to try to explain what happened to your doctor.
Let’s Talk Impact Play Devices!
Do you like being spanked, whipped, or flogged? Well, how would you know what you like best if you’ve never been spanked, whipped, paddled, caned, or flogged before?
I enjoy being spanked, flogged, paddled, and whipped. So I suggest that all newbies start with using floggers, paddles, and whips for your first few impact play sessions.
Finding whips, paddles, floggers, canes, and other impact play devices can be tricky, so I suggest you get all of your impact play devices from a reputable place.
After visiting about 20 BDSM message boards over the past few weeks, it seems that the best place to get handcrafted BDSM tools and devices for impact play is online at Shades of Love.
Everything You Need For Your BDSM Collection!
Below is a list of the BDSM accessories sold at Shades of Love. Please click on each item with your partner so the two of you can decide which BDSM products you should start with or add to your collection.
Favorite Impact Play Tools From Shades of Love!
After browsing through the wide selection of BDSM devices & impact play tools at Shades of Love, I found 3 BDSM impact play devices that I highly suggest everyone who participates in impact play should add to their kinky collection.
Ouch, XOXO Paddle Black!
Give them hugs and kisses while leaving a lasting impression on your sub. The word XOXO is reversed so that it will show up on their skin. It is made of firm but flexible stitched leather.
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Ouch! Skulls and Bones Skull Whip Black Leather! Impact Play Whip.
If you like good flogging, this beautifully crafted whip with skull design is perfect for sensory play and kinky bedroom fun. Made from high-quality black Bonded Leather, the whip is beautifully finished with tiny skulls on the tail ends. The heady mix of pleasure and pain will drive them to the edge of bliss. Product dimensions are 23.38 inches by .78 inches. Materials Metal and Bonded Leather.
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Kink The Quad Silicone Whip Black 18 inches!
The Quad demands a firm hand. Measuring 18 inches of premium silicone molded in a single piece, this intense, versatile flogger is designed to make your subs quiver in anticipation. The Quad features four thick silicone strands, each ending in a bulbed, lightly weighted tip to make it sting just right, and the elegantly contoured handle is fully insertable for penetration play. 100% Silicone. Total length 18 inches, insertable length 5.5 inches, width 1.5 inches, circumference 5 inches.