BDSM -Bondage, Discipline, Sado, Masochism

BDSM…Bondage, Discipline, Sado, Masochism

Definition: Merriam-Webster Dictionary: a sexual activity involving such practices as the use of physical restraints, the granting and relinquishing of control and the infliction of pain.
Oxford English Definition: first used the term in 1991 on a Usenet forum and is now used as an umbrella term to describe a large and diverse set of sexual practices, relationships, and distinct cultures.
Let’s break it down even more…

~Bondage/Discipline-Restriction-can be either physical and/or psychological. Might include orgasm control, rope play, breath play, to name just a few.

~Dominance/submission-Relationship dynamic where power and control are negotiated and exchanged for erotic enjoyment. These dynamics are central to the interactions that people in the agreed upon relationship have.

~Sado/Masochism-When people erotically enjoy either inflicting (sadist) or receiving (masochist) the physical or psychological pain and suffering.

Terminology…

SSC…stands for Safe Sane and Consensual

~This describes the limits set by the community that separates BDSM from unhealthy or abusive practices that can often look, from the outside, very similar to BDSM.

RACK…Risk Awareness Consensual Kink

~The community wanting to give people more autonomy to people regarding the risks that they put their body in. People can sanely choose to put themselves in unsafe situations.

CCCC…Caring, Communication, Consent and Caution

~This includes the communication and emotional components that had been left out of SSC and RACK.

TOYS…GAGS used a lot in porn are most famous for breath play and dominance. As always, it is of utmost importance to educate oneself in regards to this kind of game.

Breathable Ball Gag

RESTRAINTS…HEIGHTENS OTHER SENSORY EXPERIENCES AND PROVIDES A CONTROL/POWER EXCHANGE.

Our most popular mid-range restraint set is Sportsheet under the bed restraint. Because of its easy installation it is great for the beginner as well as the more advanced.

For the BDSM connoisseur, we recommend our higher end leather products available in our store.

BDSM under the bed restraint

If you would like to learn more visit the following sites.

Kinkacademy.com

onyxmen.com

mollena.com

About the author

Rita Delgado

I opened Shades of Love in 1999 as the first "adult boutique" in San Antonio. As a service oriented person, (my background is in social work, school truancy officer, school teacher and children protective services) I now have the opportunity to help people with their most intimate relationships. I enjoy my profession and strive to keep myself educated by immersing myself in reading and attending seminars . I would like to share some of my knowledge and experience with you in the hope that you find the information helpful.