Sexual Health and Happiness
A lot of folks come into Shades of Love looking to improve things in the bedroom. One of the things that we’re keen on isn’t just giving you good sex toys. We also want to make sure your relationships are working.
Remind Yourself to Communicate with Your Partner
People tend to use sex and sex toys as a band-aid to patch things up and brush things over. However, it’s important to realize that you can enjoy sex more if your relationship outside of the bedroom is working.
Communication is everything when it comes to sex. A lot of people might disagree, but it’s everything. The bedroom is where you are the most vulnerable. You’re basically saying, “I’m letting you see everything,” and, if you can’t communicate, it will chip away at your relationship and your sexual health.
Sexual Health is Important Too
Good sexual health means that you’re not looking for another partner or seeking outside entertainment, such as pornography, bars, or other things to try and pick someone up.
Sexual health is being content and happy with your sexuality, with the amount of sex you’re having, even if it’s once a month or once a day. We have couples come in saying, “We have sex twice a week. Is that normal?” We say, “If you’re okay with that, yes.” We have a friend that says, “Give me 20 minutes 3 times a week and I’m fine.” That’s their normal.
Switching Things Up in the Bedroom Keeps it Fun
It’s important to change stuff up every once in awhile but, at the same time, I’ve met lots of couples that are fine with missionary 3 times a week. Couples shouldn’t focus on how much they should have sex in a week. If there is some unhappiness, I think couples should communicate and come up with a compromise if one wants more than the other. However, if they’re both happy having sex once a week or 5 times/week, that’s great. There’s no normal amount of sex you should be having.
We still think think it’s important every once in awhile to change it up. It doesn’t have to be a drastic change, it can be little stuff. Put on a different color of lipstick. Instead of lights, use candles. While it’s incredible to have a routine that you and your partner love, changing it up does show that you are still interested in pursuing your partner while adding some spice to your sex life.
More than anything, realize that what you and your partner want in the bedroom is excellent. You don’t have to live up to anyone’s sexual satisfaction except each others.